Highly empathetic individuals often engage in serial fixing, leading to false ownership in relationships. This behavior can leave them feeling depleted, lonely, and anxious. They may seek self-worth through helping others but often lack internal validation and connection with themselves. Their need to feel needed can overshadow their own emotional needs, turning support into a burden. Rather than simply listening to someone's pain, they tend to carry it, leading to over-accommodation and operating on others' timelines, which complicates healthy relationships.
Some interactions fill us up, even energize us. There's a connection, not a transfer. But others leave us depleted. There's a heaviness we feel, and perhaps a sense of confusion. We worked hard, and empathy might continue to radiate through us to the point of becoming anxious thoughts.
Serial fixing... ultimately it leads to false ownership and imbalanced relationships. Giving and being available, yet also feeling lonely.
When we lack internal validation and connection to ourselves, we outsource our value. Helping becomes the fastest route to feeling useful, purposeful, even loved.
We don't just sit with someone's pain, we carry it. We soothe, fix, over-accommodate, and unknowingly operate on their timeline.
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