"When a child expresses a need and consistently receives a negative response, they learn that their need is a problem. This conditioning can be subtle, such as a sigh or a tone that conveys disappointment. Over time, the child internalizes that expressing needs creates tension, leading to a belief that the need itself is the issue."
"By adulthood, the internal experience of wanting something becomes pre-loaded with the sensation of impending conflict. The individual feels that asking for a need is an act of aggression against those they depend on, rather than a simple request for support."
For many adults, expressing needs triggers feelings of guilt, making them feel like an imposition. This stems from early conditioning where needs were perceived as problems, leading to a reluctance to ask for help. Instead of simply needing confidence or assertiveness, these individuals internalized the belief that expressing needs creates tension or disappointment. Over time, they stop distinguishing between having a need and expressing it, resulting in a complex relationship with their desires and requests.
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