"Have you ever sat across from someone who you felt was challenging or having a funny reaction to you? These are emotional reactions that are probably not fully under conscious control. Otherwise, you would probably just be amused by other people's quirks and reactions and not "feel" any particular way about them. (And, no, I am not saying to ignore your serial killer vibes-if you get those, run away!)"
"In these instances, you are making decisions on whether to move forward with someone or end the interaction based on very limited data. You have input from your emotional system (data) and input from your cortex (consciously interpreting your perceptions; data). But do you know which data to pay more attention to? Sometimes the data from your emotional system might tell you, "Run away!" while the data from your cortex-"This person is hot!"-might tell you to move forward."
Immediate emotional responses often shape whether people pursue or end early romantic interactions. Reactions such as a sudden "yuck" or rapid attraction followed by critical thinking are frequently not fully conscious. These reactions arise from the limbic system and amygdala, carrying emotional memories from earlier life events. Early interpersonal decisions combine input from the emotional system and conscious cortex, yet the two systems can send conflicting signals. Individuals can choose which system to privilege when deciding to continue or stop engaging with someone. Learning to separate emotional impulses from rational evaluation can improve decision-making in dating and interpersonal contexts.
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