"For the sake of making this situation as clear as possible, let's say the people you're talking about are not just distant cousins who only learned they were related through an ancestry test. Let's say they're actually siblings. No, let's make it even more alarming and say they're mother and daughter. I absolutely understand why you'd be taken aback. Even so, I'm not sure you're owed an apology or obligated to spread the word about what you learned."
"Your adult community sounds great in a lot of ways, but your participation in it seems to have at least one downside: You're connecting with (and by "connecting," I assume you mean having sex with) people who you don't know very well. There's nothing wrong with that on its face, but it's sometimes going to place you in intimate situations that you would have avoided if you'd had a chance to really talk to and evaluate"
An individual in an open adult community had sexual encounters with two people who did not disclose they were relatives. The revelation — ranging hypothetically from siblings to mother-and-daughter — caused feelings of betrayal and moral discomfort. The situation raises questions about nondisclosure, consent boundaries, and responsibility to inform others. Participation in encounters with people one does not know well increases risk of encountering undisclosed problematic situations. Feeling shaken does not automatically create an obligation to demand apology or broadcast the information. Setting clearer personal boundaries and being cautious about partners can reduce such risks.
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