"Although I was initially furious, having a threesome with her and another woman has always been my ultimate fantasy, and in a moment of weakness, I accepted their offer to join them. Now my wife wants to set up an official session for the three of us. Ridiculous as it sounds, I don't want to have a repeat of it."
"This does not sound ridiculous to me at all. Let's strip the gendered cultural permissions and expectations out of this: Your partner cheated on you, and you found out by graphic surprise. You were invited to join the romp, and, because you had often fantasized about a consensual version of that scenario, you proceeded. You did not enjoy yourself, are not interested in having threesomes to make this retroactively consensual, and are requiring your partner to stop cheating on you."
A man discovered his wife in bed with another woman and, despite initial fury, joined them because a threesome was a long-standing fantasy. He did not enjoy the encounter and now refuses to repeat it even though his wife wants to arrange a planned threesome. He is willing to forgive his wife on condition that cheating stops and the scenario does not recur. Friends pressure him to accept the opportunity, but he insists on his boundaries. The situation raises issues of consent, retroactive justification of cheating, and unequal cultural assumptions about women's relationships with women.
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