"As we've gotten older, she has become hornier in general and now doesn't require as much. However, it seems I'm the one who needs more now. She's more than happy with our normal routine, which is fairly vanilla and primarily focused on me being in charge of both our orgasms. Unfortunately, I rarely have an actual orgasm when we're both finishing. It's like I am conditioned to come whenever she orgasms, whether I am ready or not. There's just no pop to it."
"She is also more interested in the destination than the journey, so no matter what point we are at in getting me going, when she's ready, she pulls me on top to get her to where she wants to go. She hasn't embraced edging. She would be furious if I stopped in the middle of her orgasm, so I could work to build up mine."
Both partners are 46 and married 19 years. Early in the relationship the wife needed extensive foreplay to reach orgasm while the husband was ready anytime. They developed a routine of earlier stimulation, massages, foot rubs, extended making out, and the use of toys that produced multiple orgasms for the wife and satisfying finishes. With age the wife became hornier and now requires less foreplay, while the husband now needs more stimulation and feels conditioned to climax when the wife does, producing less satisfying ejaculations. The wife prioritizes her orgasm and would be furious if stopped mid-orgasm. The husband has not verbalized these changes; without telling her she cannot know he needs more warm-up or that his orgasms feel lackluster. He might bring up shifts in libido depending on his approach to sexual conversations.
Read at Slate Magazine
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