"You've changed all the diapers, fed all the kids, made a snack (and another snack because the first snack wasn't enough), gone to your older kid's conference night, cleaned up dinner, and convinced your reluctant kid to do homework. Then you FINALLY crash onto the bed, only to be met with another challenge for some parents - your sex life, or lack thereof, in some cases."
"The exhaustion is real. In a 2025 State of Motherhood Report, research showed 37% of moms rate their frequency of sex as "very dissatisfied, or dissatisfied," and factors influencing their sexual satisfaction included having enough time and energy, having an interest or desire, the relationship dynamics, and mental-emotional exhaustion. Millennial moms especially pointed to time and energy, with 74% of them calling it the top factor in their sexual satisfaction. That is to say, of course, there's just not enough of it to go around."
"For some partners, just initiating and showing interest is enough to keep your sex life exciting, and, more importantly, increase closeness. "Initiating sex is about showing your partner that they're important and that intimacy is a priority for you," Marin says. "It shows your partner that you recognize how vulnerable initiating is, and that you're willing to take on some of that burden."
Parents experience severe exhaustion from childcare and household tasks that leaves little time or energy for sex. A 2025 report found 37% of mothers are very dissatisfied or dissatisfied with sexual frequency, and factors include time, energy, desire, relationship dynamics, and mental-emotional exhaustion. Seventy-four percent of millennial mothers cite time and energy as the top influence. Pressure to try complex sexual techniques increases stress rather than helping. Initiating sex and showing interest signals that a partner is important, prioritizes intimacy, acknowledges vulnerability, and shares initiation burden, which can increase closeness despite fatigue.
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