A breakup led to improved intimacy for a couple that previously struggled with communication. During their time apart, they encountered newfound sexual autonomy which enhanced their connection. After reconvening, they noticed that their sexual relationship had become erratic, yet the absence of pressure to define their relationship strengthened their bond. The individual adopted lessons on emotional expression through listening rather than mere physical comfort, allowing for deeper connections. Uncertainty about their future has led to more honest communication regarding their needs and desires.
Having a break has been great for our sex life. Hester and I got to a point where we weren't being open with each other. She had reservations about the relationship and our future together, and I could sense her uncertainty, which had a knock-on effect on me. We decided to break up, but this decision actually freed us.
While we were apart, we'd have sex when we met up about once a month, but we also slept with other people. Hester saw my sexual autonomy as attractive. I found my mojo and brought that back into our relationship.
Before, I saw sex as a barometer of how good our relationship was, but Hester wanting to be with me after time apart means I feel more secure. I learned from my parents to offer comfort with physical affection, but Hester has taught me to be still and just listen.
We both expressed uncertainty about whether getting back together was the right thing, which was freeing and took the pressure off. I was worried I might lose some of the power and feel unwanted again, but I'm now able to communicate those doubts.
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