"Call me crazy, but I think that you can make a point of ending your relationship in a manner that does not include an email, a doorman, or a missing person's report. I think you could all get over your fear of looking like the bad guy and actually have the uncomfortable breakup conversation. Because here's what, avoiding that is what makes you the bad guy."
"Berger broke up with me on a post-it. Yeah, I know as Berger's friend, you can't have a normal reaction. But just so you know, the normal reaction has been... Not that I'm going around telling everyone, just some girlfriends, you know, I'm trying to understand why someone would do that. Well, maybe he was afraid. Interesting, how so? Women can get really angry."
A relationship ended when Berger left a post-it note, prompting friends to react and question such an impersonal breakup. The conversation highlights that many people fear looking like the bad guy and therefore avoid direct endings. Direct, in-person breakups delivered with courage and courtesy are presented as the respectful alternative to emails, doormen, or notes. Avoiding a candid conversation turns the avoider into the bad guy. Most women want an ending that is thoughtful, decent, and honors the relationship. The setting then shifts to the 26th Annual New Yorker Festival with an introduction of Sarah Jessica Parker.
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