If you focus on what you don't want in life, you'll keep getting it. Here's the psychology behind why - Silicon Canals
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If you focus on what you don't want in life, you'll keep getting it. Here's the psychology behind why - Silicon Canals
"Ever catch yourself thinking "I don't want to be broke" and then somehow always finding yourself scrambling for cash at the end of the month? A few years back, I was obsessed with not becoming like those anxious, stressed-out people I saw rushing through life. I'd wake up thinking "I don't want to be anxious today." I'd go to bed reviewing all the ways I didn't want my life to turn out. Guess what happened? I became exactly what I was trying to avoid."
"Here's something wild: When you tell your brain "don't think about a pink elephant," what's the first thing that pops into your mind? A pink elephant, right? This happens because our brains need to first create the image or concept before they can negate it. Psychologists call this "ironic process theory," and it's been messing with us since the dawn of human consciousness."
"When you constantly tell yourself "I don't want to fail" or "I don't want to be alone," your brain has to first process and visualize failure and loneliness. You're literally programming your mind with the exact images you're trying to avoid. Think about it: Every time you say "I don't want to be like my parents" or "I don't want another toxic relationship," you're forcing your brain to focus on those exact scenarios. Your subconscious just processes parents and toxic relationships, over and over again."
Obsessing over not becoming anxious or broke causes the mind to repeatedly visualize those unwanted states, increasing their likelihood. The brain must create the image before negating it, so negations like "don't think about X" still activate X. Psychologists call this ironic process theory. Repeatedly telling oneself "I don't want…" programs the subconscious with those scenarios, reinforcing them. Understanding this mechanism and adopting practices that visualize and focus on desired outcomes can reverse the pattern. Ancient Buddhist techniques and modern psychology offer strategies to flip the script toward constructive visualization and mindful attention.
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