"Let the call go to voicemail. She didn't show up for you in times of need. You, also, from your telling, don't really like her. I don't see what hashing it out on the phone is going to do. Sometimes a relationship exists in name only. Sometimes we realize that people have saved us the trouble of removing them from our lives through their own failure to show up. This may sound callous; I don't mean it to be."
"Four years ago, my husband of 35 years unexpectedly died he was gone within eight hours of entering the ER. It was traumatic for me. My large family of siblings showed up. At the time, the sister in question phoned and said she couldn't come because her daughter was having her third child, but she would come in a month or so. Time passed and no visit."
The writer lost a husband of 35 years suddenly and experienced traumatic events including a house fire. The sister promised support after the death and after the fire but did not visit, and minimal contact persisted for nearly four years while the sister traveled extensively. The sister displays envy, entitlement, and condescension and married into wealth without working. Recommended action is to let calls go to voicemail and avoid a confrontational phone exchange that would add stress. Repeated neglect can indicate a relationship that exists only in name and may relieve the writer of needing to actively sever ties.
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