"The wisdom here isn't about self-deprecation, but rather embracing what Davis et al. (2011) refer to as the "just right view of the self." When we clearly understand both our strengths and weaknesses, we gain a better understanding of the value we bring to our environment as well as where we need additional support. In theory, when we recognize this, neither flattery nor insult should have the power to distort our self-worth."
"Psychological research on humility supports the wisdom of Epictetus. Humility is not thinking less of oneself but thinking of oneself accurately, acknowledging strengths and limitations without exaggeration ( Davis et al., 2011; Tangney, 2011). Humble individuals exhibit a stable self-concept that resists the emotional highs of praise and the lows of criticism. Their self-esteem is secure because it is grounded in reality rather than the perceptions of others."
"Try this humble habit: It's ironic that we often believe both our own hype and our haters, but a more humble habit is to temper both extremes by embracing the "just right" view of the self. When someone praises you or when you achieve something great, remind yourself, "There may be truth here, but it's one data point, and it doesn't reflect everything about me.""
Humility means seeing oneself accurately, acknowledging strengths and limitations without exaggeration. Accurate self-knowledge clarifies the value one contributes and where support is needed. Treating wins and failures as single data points prevents praise or criticism from distorting self-worth. Humble individuals display a stable self-concept and emotional resilience, resisting extremes of elation and despair. Practicing a "just right" view of the self involves tempering belief in both hype and criticism by reminding oneself that any single compliment or fault is only one piece of information about overall ability and character.
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