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Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 months agoI asked my father-in-law what the secret to his 50-year marriage was and he said four words - and the more I live, the more I realize those four words contain everything the entire self-help industry has been trying to say - Silicon Canals
Prioritizing being right in relationships destroys connection; choosing understanding over validation strengthens bonds and resolves conflicts more effectively.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoThe definitive sign someone has done real inner work isn't how calm they seem in conflict, it's how quickly they can name what just happened to them without making it the other person's fault - Silicon Canals
Genuine emotional growth involves naming personal experiences rather than merely maintaining composure in conflict.
#relationship-dynamics
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks agoThe Surprising Truth About Partners Who Never Argue
Conflict-free relationships may indicate underlying issues rather than compatibility, as open discussions about differences strengthen bonds.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks agoThe 5 Most Common Causes of Arguments and How to Avoid Them
Arguments in relationships often stem from unresolved issues, not the arguments themselves.
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoRelationships
The couples who last aren't the ones who never hurt each other. They're the ones who developed a shared language for repair that both people trust, and the language matters more than the injury because injury is inevitable and repair is chosen. - Silicon Canals
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoThe couples who last aren't the ones who never hurt each other. They're the ones who developed a shared language for repair that both people trust, and the language matters more than the injury because injury is inevitable and repair is chosen. - Silicon Canals
The quality of repair after conflict is more crucial for relationship longevity than the frequency or severity of conflicts.
#emotional-intelligence
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoPsychology suggests people who stay calm during conflict aren't less emotional - they learned early that the person who controls the temperature of the room controls the outcome, and they stopped reacting and started choosing - Silicon Canals
Controlling emotional responses during conflict can significantly influence the outcome of the situation.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoPeople who go quiet when they're hurt instead of raising their voice learned somewhere very early that their anger wasn't received as information. It was received as an inconvenience. So they stopped sending the signal and started absorbing the damage, and they've been doing it so long they sometimes mistake silence for calm - Silicon Canals
Silence during conflict often indicates deeper emotional pain rather than composure or passive aggression.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoNot everyone who goes quiet during an argument is shutting down. Some of them are running a calculation they learned in childhood where speaking while emotional guaranteed that what they said would be used against them later, and the silence is protective custody for their own words. - Silicon Canals
Silence during conflict can indicate a calculated emotional response rather than passive aggression or shutdown.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoNot everyone who avoids conflict is afraid of confrontation. Some people finally realized that the person across from them doesn't want resolution, they want an audience, and refusing to perform is the most confrontational thing you can do. - Silicon Canals
Silence can be a deliberate choice in conflict, not a sign of weakness or fear.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
2 months agoIf a man goes quiet instead of arguing, psychology says he's displaying one of these 8 rare emotional strengths - Silicon Canals
Silence during conflict often reflects emotional strength and self-regulation rather than weakness, indifference, or passive-aggression.
fromwww.aljazeera.com
2 weeks agoDRC government, M23 rebels commit to protect civilians, aid deliveries
The parties agreed to refrain from any action that would undermine the principled delivery of humanitarian assistance within the territories impacted by the conflict. Both sides also pledged not to target civilians and to facilitate medical care for the wounded and sick.
Russo-Ukrainian War
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoI've been with my partner for years and I only just realized that every time I said "let's be rational" during an argument, what they heard was "your feelings don't matter" - and that's what's been quietly pushing us apart - Silicon Canals
Prioritizing logic over emotional validation can undermine relationships and lead to feelings of being unheard and diminished.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoPsychology says people who can walk away from an argument without needing the last word aren't passive or weak - they've learned that some people don't argue to understand, they argue to win, and disengaging from a game that was never designed to have a fair outcome is one of the most sophisticated emotional skills a person can develop, even though it almost always gets mistaken for not caring - Silicon Canals
Walking away from unproductive arguments reflects wisdom, not weakness, and is essential for emotional health.
#pope-leo-xiv
World politics
fromFortune
2 weeks agoPope Leo XIV: a 'handful of tyrant's are ravaging Earth with war and exploitation | Fortune
Pope Leo XIV condemned tyrants exploiting war and called for peace in Cameroon, emphasizing interfaith cooperation and the need to avoid religious manipulation in conflicts.
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 weeks agoMore than 1bn pledged for Sudan as humanitarian crisis deepens
More than 1bn (1.15bn) has been pledged for war-ravaged Sudan at a conference in Berlin, eclipsing the funding target organisers had set to help mitigate the world's largest humanitarian crisis.
Fundraising
fromRealagriculture
3 weeks agoSuccession beyond the spreadsheet with Ron Krahn - How Could I Know? Ep 4
"Too often we're just focusing on the numbers and forgetting the communication and setting goals," he says, noting that while tax strategies and asset transfers are well supported, the "soft side" of transition-roles, expectations, and ongoing involvement-is often left undefined.
Agriculture
Non-profit organizations
fromNonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
3 weeks agoThe Meaningful Reset: Designing Nonprofits to Survive Board-Staff Conflict | Nonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
Nonprofit organizations face unique challenges due to emotional investment, leading to conflicts that require careful analysis and intentional resolution.
#communication
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks agoPsychology
Psychology says the moment a person stops needing to be right in every conversation is not the moment they become less intelligent - it is the moment they become more interested in the other person than in their own position, and that shift, whenever it arrives and for whatever reason, is the single most reliable predictor of whether the relationships they build from that point forward will be the kind that last - Silicon Canals
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
4 weeks agoTransform Your Arguments Into Conversations
Fights often stem from unaddressed issues; clarify your goals and emotional needs before initiating a conversation.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks agoPsychology says the moment a person stops needing to be right in every conversation is not the moment they become less intelligent - it is the moment they become more interested in the other person than in their own position, and that shift, whenever it arrives and for whatever reason, is the single most reliable predictor of whether the relationships they build from that point forward will be the kind that last - Silicon Canals
Building lasting connections relies on listening deeply and understanding rather than winning arguments.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks agoThere's a type of couple that survives not because they're more compatible but because the first time they hit a problem with no solution, they both instinctively moved to the same side of the table instead of opposite sides. That reflex, which can't be taught and is almost impossible to fake, is what outlasts everything else. - Silicon Canals
Longitudinal studies reveal that successful long-term marriages depend more on shared orientation towards problems than on communication skills or compatibility.
fromTruthout
1 month agoRupture and Repair Under Fascist Conditions
"We have a great opportunity in our movements to learn how to be opponents without being enemies," says Tanuja Jagernauth. This perspective emphasizes the importance of maintaining respect and understanding even amidst conflict.
Social justice
fromFast Company
1 month agoMade a mistake at work? Here's how to fix it in three easy steps
To successfully repair after a mistake, you need to acknowledge and name the mistake, validate the other person's feelings and viewpoint, and create a plan for the specific actions you will take to prevent this mistake from occurring again.
Careers
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoChildren who grew up in the 1960s without smartphones, instant gratification, or parental intervention in every conflict often display these 7 strengths as adults that younger generations struggle to develop - Silicon Canals
Children in the 1960s developed resilience and creativity through unstructured play and boredom, unlike today's youth who rely on constant stimulation.
Relationships
fromPortland Monthly
1 month agoFrom the Editor: Building Community Isn't Always Fun. Do It Anyway.
Proximity-based community organizing builds solidarity across differences through sustained engagement and shared material goals, fostering understanding that transcends initial disagreements.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoPeople who grew up watching one parent silently absorb the other's mood didn't just learn patience. They learned that love looks like disappearing, and they've been replicating that pattern in every relationship since without recognizing it as a blueprint. - Silicon Canals
Children internalize their parents' conflict resolution patterns, often learning self-erasure and emotional accommodation as love rather than developing healthy boundary-setting and authentic communication skills.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoMy brothers and I built a company together, which requires the specific skill of disagreeing with someone you love and then sitting at the same dinner table, and I've come to believe that the families who can do that-argue well and stay-have something most organizations spend millions trying to manufacture - Silicon Canals
Family businesses succeed by separating professional disagreement from personal relationships, maintaining passionate debate while preserving deep bonds.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoI asked 9 divorce attorneys what they notice about couples who stay together versus couples who split and not a single one mentioned love. Every answer described the same invisible skill most people never think to develop. - Silicon Canals
Successful marriages depend on the ability to repair after conflict and maintain a shared "couple identity," not on passion or love alone.
Productivity
fromFortune
1 month agoCEO coach to the Fortune 500: How leaders can use a simple strategy called 'beat the plan' to speed decision-making and build trust | Fortune
The 'Beat the plan' strategy enables leaders to make faster, higher-quality decisions while reducing power struggles by requiring teams to propose concrete alternatives rather than simply critiquing ideas.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoThe hardest conversations in any close friendship aren't arguments. They're the ones where someone finally says what they actually need instead of what's easy to hear, and both people discover whether the friendship was built on honesty or on comfort. - Silicon Canals
Meaningful friendships depend on quiet, vulnerable conversations where people express unmet needs rather than on resolving loud arguments.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoPsychology says people who stay in the same relationship for 40+ years aren't settling or stuck - they usually display these 7 emotional capacities that serial monogamists rarely develop - Silicon Canals
Long-term couples succeed by developing emotional regulation skills, communication practices, and intentional commitment rather than luck or finding the perfect partner.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoThe real reason people whose parents divorced when they were children often become the calmest person in any room isn't emotional maturity - it's that they spent their childhood reading the weather between two people and that radar never turns off, it just gets quieter, and by adulthood they can feel a fight coming three sentences before anyone else in the room - Silicon Canals
Children of divorce develop heightened emotional sensitivity and conflict-detection abilities that persist into adulthood, enabling them to anticipate and defuse tension in social situations.
Careers
fromFortune
1 month agoCiti CEO Jane Fraser has a Warren Buffett-approved trick for dealing with a toxic boss or difficult colleague: 'Never in anger, respond to that email' | Fortune
CEOs learn effective leadership by seeking peer guidance, with Warren Buffett advising Citigroup CEO Jane Fraser to delay responses to difficult situations and praise individuals while criticizing categories.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago3 Practical Ways to Navigate Difficult Conversations
Avoiding difficult conversations with loved ones creates distance and reduces relationship authenticity, while addressing uncomfortable subjects with safety, self-awareness, and open listening can strengthen intimacy and trust.
Relationships
fromwww.mercurynews.com
1 month agoAsking Eric: I thought we were good, then all of a sudden she was gone
Closure after sudden breakup requires accepting that unresolved communication patterns may prevent the conversation you seek, and reaching out again risks prolonging pain rather than resolving it.
fromUnofficial Networks
1 month agoSkier On Skier Fight Breaks Out In Lift Line @ Whistler Blackcomb
Violence on the ski mountain is never justified. If there's a serious problem, get ski patrol and let them handle it. But some people are just too entitled and have no sense of self control, ruining the peace that should exist on the resort.
Snowboarding
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoThe real reason some families go silent for years and then reunite as if nothing happened has nothing to do with forgiveness - therapists say it's one of these 4 patterns and only one of them is actually healthy - Silicon Canals
Family reunions after prolonged silence typically follow four distinct patterns, with only one fostering healthy relationships; most involve avoiding rather than resolving underlying conflicts.
fromSlate Magazine
2 months agoI Used to Love My Therapist. Then She Did Something So Deranged I Still Can't Comprehend It.
I grew up avoiding conflict, and I was marrying someone who was very good at making his position on just about anything known. In the gap between avoidance and expression, I was paralyzed. I needed help. My soon-to-be husband rightly insisted I see a therapist.
Mental health
Miscellaneous
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoListening to Understand Can Help Families of Gray Divorce
Effective communication through understanding rather than judgment reduces conflict and estrangement in gray divorce families, with feeling understood triggering security, satisfaction, and tension relief.
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