#self-determination-theory

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#motivation
Digital life
fromSilicon Canals
16 hours ago

I'm 37 and I just calculated that if I live to 80 I'm almost halfway done - and instead of feeling motivated to make changes I just felt this overwhelming fatigue at the thought of performing competence for another forty-three years - Silicon Canals

The fatigue of maintaining a socially acceptable self can lead to exhaustion, even when functioning well in daily life.
Digital life
fromSilicon Canals
16 hours ago

I'm 37 and I just calculated that if I live to 80 I'm almost halfway done - and instead of feeling motivated to make changes I just felt this overwhelming fatigue at the thought of performing competence for another forty-three years - Silicon Canals

The fatigue of maintaining a socially acceptable self can lead to exhaustion, even when functioning well in daily life.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
22 hours ago

I'm 66 and I've been retired for four years and the strangest part isn't the boredom or the money or the free time - it's that I finally have space to think and I'm realizing I don't actually like the person I built my entire career around becoming - Silicon Canals

Retirement can lead to self-reflection, revealing dissatisfaction with one's professional identity and prompting a reevaluation of personal values.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Research says the reason most people never change their lives isn't fear of failure - it's that they've spent so long performing a version of themselves for other people that they genuinely can't tell anymore which desires are actually theirs - Silicon Canals

Fear of failure and judgment often masks a deeper issue of losing touch with one's true self and desires.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

I'm 66 and the thing I regret most isn't the marriage that failed or the job I quit - it's the fifteen years I spent pretending to be someone my father would approve of instead of becoming the person I actually wanted to be - Silicon Canals

Living according to others' expectations rather than personal values for fifteen years represents the deepest regret, highlighting how autonomy deprivation undermines psychological well-being and authentic life satisfaction.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Psychology says people who genuinely don't care what others think aren't rude or selfish - they've reached a level of inner peace that comes from finally valuing their own judgment over external validation - Silicon Canals

Psychological autonomy—making decisions from internal values rather than external approval—is a developmental achievement that predicts well-being and mental health.
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

3 Reasons You Feel Guilty for Wanting More

Humans are wired for growth. Self-determination theory shows that well-being depends on three core needs: autonomy, competence, and relatedness. Interestingly, meeting external markers of success does not guarantee these needs are met internally. You can have stability without autonomy, comfort without meaning, or connection without authenticity.
Psychology
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks ago

The quiet power of people who stopped explaining themselves - Silicon Canals

Over-explaining stems from childhood invalidation and becomes a survival mechanism that eventually leads to emotional exhaustion and withdrawal from communication.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Igniting 2026 With Hybrid Intelligence

The decisive issue with AI is human intentional capacity—how aspiration, emotion, thought, and sensation are oriented—not technical capability.
fromRaptors Republic
4 months ago

Why Sandy Brondello is the perfect coach for the Toronto Tempo

Tempo general manager Monica Wright Rogers called Sandy Brondello "one of the greatest coaches in WNBA history," at the press conference that introduced her as the Tempo's first-ever head coach in Toronto on Tuesday. But Brondello herself gave the best answer as to why she's the woman for the job when asked to describe what kind of coach she is: "A pretty good one, I think," Brondello quipped in front of a small theatre of assembled media.
National Basketball Association
fromPsychology Today
6 months ago

A Good Predictor of Romantic Success

Romantic relationships are viewed almost universally as one of the most important milestones in life, which all people should achieve at some point or another. For some, this is a great motivator; for others, this instills a sense of pressure. That said, not all people pursue romantic relationships for this reason alone. There's even a growing population of individuals who aren't inclined to search for a partner at all.
Relationships
Wellness
fromPsychology Today
9 months ago

Living in Alignment With Values, Identity, and Purpose

Alignment with core values is essential for true success and fulfillment.
Misalignment can lead to stress, burnout, and a lack of direction.
Living in alignment meets crucial psychological needs.
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