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fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

I stopped trying to explain my boundaries and started just having them. The people who needed the explanation were never going to respect the boundary. They needed the explanation so they could argue with it. - Silicon Canals

Boundaries don't require extensive explanations to be valid; offering detailed justifications often enables boundary violations rather than preventing them.
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fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I stopped explaining myself to people who had already decided who I was, and the amount of energy that came back was so immediate I realized self-justification had been running in the background for years like a program I never installed - Silicon Canals

Chronic self-justification consumes significant mental energy through preemptive defense of decisions to people who may never question them, representing an invisible cognitive burden most people unknowingly carry.
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fromIndependent
6 months ago
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'I should have sacked Maria Bailey from committee... Kate O'Connell was disloyal' and five other takeaways from Leo Varadkar's new book

fromIndependent
6 months ago
Miscellaneous

'I should have sacked Maria Bailey from committee... Kate O'Connell was disloyal' and five other takeaways from Leo Varadkar's new book

fromIndependent
6 months ago
Miscellaneous

'I should have sacked Maria Bailey from committee... Kate O'Connell was disloyal' and five other takeaways from Leo Varadkar's new book

fromIndependent
6 months ago
Miscellaneous

'I should have sacked Maria Bailey from committee... Kate O'Connell was disloyal' and five other takeaways from Leo Varadkar's new book

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