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2 hours agoInsights from Dreaming in a Time of Tyranny
Dreams reflect social dynamics and can be affected by social oppression, with some individuals experiencing visionary dreams about collective crises.
Anyone who spends untold hours surfing the Web for humorous content will eventually find the work of one Vladimir Shmondenko, a prankster who goes by the name Anatoly. He's developed a faithful following, and, as far as I can tell, makes a comfortable living entirely from his TikTok and YouTube videos.
Here's something I've never told anyone at a party: I spend the first ten minutes mentally mapping out conversation escape routes because understanding social dynamics has become my weird obsession. After interviewing over 200 people about their social lives and diving deep into behavioral research, I've discovered that most of us are performing elaborate social dances without even realizing it.
What I've discovered is that the people who earn genuine, lasting respect aren't doing something special. They're actually not doing certain things that the rest of us can't seem to resist. Psychology backs this up. Research on social dynamics and group behavior reveals that respect isn't earned through dominance or attention-seeking. It's earned through restraint, authenticity, and a quiet confidence that doesn't need constant validation.
I used to think it was just good manners drilled in by strict parents, but after interviewing behavioral researchers for a recent piece on social dynamics, I've discovered there's something much deeper at play here. This seemingly small gesture-waiting for others before diving into your meal-actually reveals a fascinating cluster of personality traits that psychologists link to both personal and professional success. The research suggests these patient diners aren't just being polite; they're demonstrating qualities that make them exceptionally good friends, partners, and colleagues.
When I talk about Housewives, I generally like to explore the broadly feminine-coded social dynamics the cast employs. It's no secret the pressure cooker of the Housewives platform ends up feeling like a case study of a bunch of Regina Georges all battling it out via thinly veiled bullying and passive-aggressive smear campaigns to see who will reign supreme. But while seasoned watchers are intimately familiar with the underhanded tactics women use to jockey for security
As is always the case when I write anything, I didn't know what problems the story would pose until it started posing them. I truly believed that "Understanding the Science" would focus on Maria, and that we would get to know more about her brush with death and get access to her wisdom (or her disappointment at not having gained more of it, maybe), but then her character kept resisting me.
Can you believe it took this show seven whole episodes to finally dabble in necrophilia? As we saw last week, Dina Standish's husband, Doug, has died, and rather than calling the morgue and making arrangements, she simply gets ready for bed and goes to sleep next to the body. What could initially be seen as a relatable, albeit extreme, bit of procrastinating is soon revealed to be a reluctance to part with the body that lasts for days on end.
Eight years ago, I was in £35,000 of debt, or around $44,800 USD. I had toddler-aged twins and had just gotten remarried. We were struggling to afford rent and had to meticulously budget for food. I'd decided not to return to my job as a personal assistant, as the pay was less than the cost of childcare. I looked into starting my own business and decided to set up a wedding planning company on a whim.
Apparently, the former prime minister began by painstakingly checking what every other occupant of the table was planning to have, canvassed the waiter's opinion, then spent 10 minutes fussing about whether the dover sole was too big, before asking the waiter (answer: no), then trying, unsuccessfully, to get his mate to enter into a coalition and share the sole with him, before capitulating and plumping for the penne arrabbiata.
Lately, the meetings have shifted into more of a social gathering where the book barely gets mentioned. Instead, most of the night revolves around wine, snacks and catching up on everyone's personal drama. While I enjoy the company, I miss the actual book discussions that originally drew me to the group. I feel like the odd one out for wanting to stay on topic, and I worry that if I bring it up, I'll come across as uptight.
You state that you suspect that some of your family members are aware of your sexual orientation. You have the right to invite anyone you wish to your social gatherings, but having done so, you shouldn't attempt to censor who they are.