Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
2 days agoMy Son and His Friends Made a Gross Bet. I'm Livid.
Parents should address immature sexual attitudes in 13-year-olds through open dialogue rather than isolating them from peers or involving other families.
Time is life-time, and increasingly young adolescents want to determine how their lives are personally spent. The outcome for parents is that they can feel rushed by youthful demands, while it can take more time for them to get what they requested.
Without effective tools and preparation, many parents understandably default to instinct and use common ineffective tactics, such as warning, advising, informing, or trying to control their teens. The adolescent brain has been compared to a car with a powerful gas pedal and weak brakes when in the presence of other teens or when expecting to be seen by them (Bulow, 2022; Steinberg, 2008). Further, they are drawn to peers, and then instinctively rev each other up into risky experimentation and sensation-seeking.
Understanding prevalent stereotypes - whether they are positive or negative, believed or not - could help schools and parents counter them to support students' development, said Adam Hoffman , assistant professor in the Department of Psychology and College of Human Ecology. "Research has shown that stereotypes, even positive ones, are detrimental and can impact teens' academic motivation and achievement, mental health and well-being," Hoffman said.